Growing Through Grief: Finding more peace, joy and love
By Angela Clement
What if I told you that you can have what you want. Would you know what that is? I know sometimes it is hard after a loss but it is a pivotal question because getting curious about what you really want now, since any significant change, helps you dip your toe into the future. Perhaps you would say more money or more time. Perhaps you want a new car or house or maybe you want to travel. Whatever it is, think about not only what you want but why you want that.
Sometimes the answer to that question “why” helps you to see what you truly desire. If we can take some time to get to the root of what we really want, it clears some of the confusion and creates a focus. I think at the root of what we seek is likely more peace, joy and love. If you could go right now to a state of peace, joy and love, imagine how that would feel. We would be calm and centred. The world looks very different from this place. Troubles don’t seem so big. We are able to clear away the chaos and look at the beauty around us. It helps soften and release fear, grasping, control and doubt. Why is that?
Energy is all around us. It is measured in vibrational frequency. Everything in the universe, from physical objects to thoughts and emotions, is energy vibrating at specific frequencies. The vibrations are measured in cycles per second or Hertz (Hz). In physical science, these vibrations can be measured through techniques like infrared spectroscopy. Lower frequencies are associated with feelings of fear and anger. The state of peace, joy and love can be measured as high frequencies. The Joy Frequency is around 528 Hz where anger is around 150 Hz. Guilt is one of the very lowest frequencies at 30 Hz.
Actively appreciating what you have in this moment immediately increases your vibration. Engaging in acts of love and kindness increases our vibration to that of love. Looking towards the future with excitement and curiosity aligns your brain with a state of success. High-frequency emotions (gratitude, love) release chemicals like serotonin and dopamine, improving your mood and physical health while lowering stress. This better state of being makes you more receptive to opportunities that you might otherwise miss. These opportunities are all around you and it is when you are in that state of contentment and peace that they find you. Higher frequency emotions and thoughts bring abundance in the form of new, positive experiences and doors to professional or personal advancement.
When we are in states of fear and worry, we don’t feel good. This is because we are at that lower frequency. It is not a bad thing. Sometimes we just feel sad. This is part of being human. That is okay. What I have found though, is that the best way to move out of that vibration is to not resist it, shove it down or struggle or fight it. It is actually through compassion and love that we move out of it. Compassion and love for ourselves! What if you were to acknowledge that your thoughts and feelings are from that lower vibration and then consciously find ways to love and support yourself through those times? As soon as you are loving and supporting yourself, you find yourself moving into the higher vibration of love. It takes a little practice, but everyone is able to do this. It is all about finding a way that works for you.
There are so many different ways we can support ourselves. The trick is to find a practice that you enjoy doing. Sometimes we have to try a few things to see what works. If you are interested in learning more about what you can do, or exploring new ways of releasing some of the heaviness, I can help. Sending lots of love. Angela www.healingenergy.world