Growing Through Grief: Balance and Harmony
By Angela Clement
In a time where it can feel like everything in the world is out of control, we need more than ever to decide how we will respond. We are certainly made aware of all the things that are wrong in the world. We are shown deception, we are shown greed, heartbreak and loss. To add to all of that, we have our own challenges that we have to deal with in our everyday lives. Perhaps you or someone you know is sick. Perhaps you are finding financial difficulties. Perhaps you have lost a close loved one. These things add up to a lot and can knock us out of balance. It can be so overwhelming. The emotions can be strong! There is great pressure to find the answers and to fix what feels awful.
You must give yourself permission to feel all the emotions that are coming up for you fully and completely. That is where we start. But how can we do that without creating more chaos? Often the strong emotions bring us to feel like acting out in rage. This can easily perpetuate the issues we are having. I’m not saying a good scream into a pillow isn’t helpful. I think that it is. Throwing soft things around your room and punching a teddy bear are all safe ways to let anger out when things become overwhelming. Yet when it comes right down to it, we are just wanting to be heard and seen. Under all that rage, we are afraid, scared and worried about the future. How can we stop the rage and the hate? We balance it with something so much stronger. What we really need to do is find compassion, for ourselves and for everyone around us. Not the kind where we bring ourselves to sit together in our rage and anger but where we see ourselves and the struggles. We need to become our own best friend. What would I do for a friend who is in my situation? Can I do that for myself? We need to become the one who supports and empowers ourselves and others when we are at our worst.
We don’t have to do this alone. Being part of a community or group that helps others is an amazing way to make a difference. Reaching out to local community groups or individuals that can support yourself is also encouraged. Maybe you create your own small group. Ask the question, what can you do for others that they cannot do for themselves? What can they do for you? There is no better feeling than being able to help someone else. Not only that, when you help others, you heal and grow faster. I have interviewed over 200 people on my summits and podcast who have transformed their lives after great trauma and loss, many of them by providing service to others. It becomes part of your own healing process when you start thinking about others because when we do this, it changes our whole perspective to one of love. What did you need in your darkest hour? What creative talents do you have that you can share with others in your situation in even a small way? Surround yourself with like minded people who are helpful, loyal and supportive.
When we start to look closer at our own needs along with those of others, we learn what we need to stay in balance. Harmony is created through balance. Balance is the tool to reach a state of harmony and harmony is where we want to live. Balance distributes weight so that no area of our life is overwhelmed. Where are you feeling overwhelmed in your work, family or self? How can you set some priorities and find peace so that you can show up for yourself and others in a way that is helpful? What values are important to you? Are you spending your time in ways that reflect those values? Answering some of these questions may find you the harmony and peace you are looking for. May you find the first months in 2026 the opportunity to find your balance.
Lots of love, Angela